Heart Attitudes

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23


Consider the needs of others

  • Make their day

  • Listen

  • Share each other’s burdens, needs, and feelings

  • Be first to offer acceptance, compassion, encouragement, respect, and security

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:34-35


Live an honest and open lifestyle

  • Add honor to the family name

  • Live the truth

  • Take the harder right—it’s worth it in the end.

“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25

“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.” 1 John 1:7


Lovingly give and humbly receive Scriptural correction

  • Discipline yourself

  • Ask for feedback

  • Give Scriptural advice

  • Take the wise path

“He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame but whoever heeds correction, is honored.” Proverbs 13:18

“Better an open reprimand than concealed love. The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.” Proverbs 27:5-6

“Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” James 1:19

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24-25

“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:13

“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21

“But speaking the truth in love, let us grow in every way into him who is the head - Christ.” Ephesians 4:15


Keep relationships straight

  • Apologize before things get out of hand

  • Talk through problems

  • When you mess up, clean up

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” Matthew 5:23-24

“Do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Do not let any rotten talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful to others, building them up according to their needs.” Ephesians 4:26-27, 29

“If anyone is caught in any transgression … restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” Galatians 6:1

“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13


Participate in family life and ministry

  • Keep the family stories alive

  • Spend time with your family

  • Pray for each other

  • Show gratitude

  • Help out around the house

  • Give kisses and hugs

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each one has received a gift, use it to care for one another, as good stewards of God’s universal kindness.” 1 Peter 4:8-10

“From Him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” Ephesians 4:16


Give something back

  • Share

  • Make the world better

  • Support justice

“He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.” 2 Corinthians 9:6

“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8

“On the first day of every week, each one of you should set aside a sum of money in keeping with his income, saving it up, so that when I come no collections will have to be made.” 1 Corinthians 16:2

“Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:6-7


Follow spiritual leadership within Scriptural limits

  • Choose your attitude

  • Respect old people

  • Ask for help

“Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you.” Hebrews 13:17

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master. Ephesians 6:1,4

Be responsive to your pastoral leaders. Listen to their counsel. They are alert to the condition of your lives and work under the strict supervision of God. Contribute to the joy of their leadership, not its drudgery. Why would you want to make things harder for them? Hebrews 13:17

“Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’ Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.’” 1 Peter 5:5-7

Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the LORD your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12


The Heart Attitudes were created by Harold Bullock of Hope Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and are found here. They were adapted for the family by Jack Allen.